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How to Romanticize Your Major or Career Goal

By T’keyah McCrea
April 4, 2024

Your Vision:
What do you daydream about? What’s your purpose or end goal? You have to make love to your desires. Let’s use me as an example. I am pursuing my master’s degree in fashion business and a balanced career as CEO of Nuh Swim. I want to learn how to remain creative behind my brand and develop new opportunities for myself to expand so I need to romanticize college and my career. To be honest, I romanticize my college and career by using Tumblr, pausing before each reblog and thinking of myself in my dream position with my degree in hand. Whether my “dream designation” (wherever you catch yourself daydreaming most) is for shopping sprees or a job at a major law firm after completing school, you have to darn near obsess over it.

Gratitude:
Be thankful for the things you want ahead of time. “I am grateful for top brands inviting me to interviews daily.” It’s important to affirm it. Remind yourself of your vision when it gets hard. Be grateful for making it this far when you’re in doubt. This is your grounding technique when it comes to romanticizing. Remember, we are making love to our desires, so it’s our job to make our desires feel appreciated enough to blossom.

Your Discipline:
Romance isn’t always about superficial stuff. It’s about spending one on one time too. Spend alone time with your desires. You want to be a doctor? A journalist? Ok why aren’t you learning additional languages and adding to your student resume in order to appear the best at your craft. Show off your love! There’s no better way to romanticize your college and career than to work to put the effort into your goals. In a relationship, don’t you appreciate when your partner puts effort in your relationship? Same thing! This is why it’s very important to have a vision so you have more of a push to invest in your dreams.

Make It Your Lifestyle:
I’ll attain a master’s in fashion business all while being a successful content creator; so I’m reading books to elevate my mindset. I explore topics such as improving my conversation, fashion marketing, communication, and entrepreneurship for women. I’m following other mentors on my social media accounts, watching YouTube videos explaining the content lifestyle at hand, listening to podcasts of students and experts of the field, viewing vlogs of students who attend my dream college, etc. Immerse yourself in your goals. This will influence your discipline.

Make Memories:
We are all so busy chasing our dreams that we don’t take the time to really live in the moment, let alone capture it. Make yourself a scrapbook, even if it’s a throwaway. Create an Instagram that’s private and for your eyes only. You’re going to look back on it one day and remember how you were so worried about passing that class, getting that internship, learning that skill…make memories. It’s the best advice I’ve gotten and I wish someone told me sooner. There’s no greater romance than making memories with yourself, love (pun intended). I hope that was helpful!